haunted?

The more I think about it, the more that dorm life is a perfect experiment in civilization. I was surprised by the descriptions of male vs. female dorms. The dorm I lived in was co-ed by hall, and I wonder if having us in closer proximity to one another cut down on the differences. We had to "blend" more. But it got me thinking even more about the idea that civilization is our cage. Is it true that males need to be forced into civilization more than females? Is there really something about our natures that is essentially different? On an individual basis, I just don't see it, but in group settings, it seems to be more noticeable. Are we different depending on who we are around? Every time I have found myself in large groups lately, I find myself thinking about the different perspectives we have read, and wondering whihc one fits. At the marching band competition at the high school, at dinner with my sons, at the mall... And then I started thinking about the new social spaces that exist but don't exist: Facebook and email lists and the internet itself. We have seen how the same kinds of problems, "evils" errupt there (is there a "there?") I had a weird experience of only knowing someone through his blog and then meeting him in person. The in-person meeting was so much more powerful--voice and face and, I don't know how to explain it, but I guess you would say "physical presence." But I think it was all the more powerful for knowing him through his words first.
I wonder how cyberspace is changing civilization...